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 My husband is unfaithful and has a gambling problem. Should I stick with him? [Fri, 12 Mar 2010 07:00:02 GMT2010-03-12T07:00:02Z]

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I have been married for 18 years. I was depressed for many years and our relationship became unhappy. Last year I discovered my husband had been having an affair for two years. He claimed that he would never lie to me again. When I questioned him, he denied she had been in our house but his lover told me that they had had sex in my bed. She told me about hurtful comments he had made about my appearance.

During those two years he also lost several thousand pounds gambling.

Since then we have been fairly happy but I still feel immense anger. I am jealous of her; she is slim whereas I feel overweight. I felt, and still feel, humiliated. I know people are surprised that I have stayed with him. I do still love him but my anger is spoiling our relationship. Should I make a clean break?

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Debating Meat IV: Kantian Kabobs In part III of debating meat, I examined Descartes’ arguments as to why it is no crime to kill and eat animals. I now turn to a brief examination of Kant’s view of animals. In his ethical theory Kant makes it quite clear that animals are means rather than ends. Rational beings, in contrast, are ends. [...]
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In part III of debating meat, I examined Descartes’ arguments as to why it is no crime to kill and eat animals. I now turn to a brief examination of Kant’s view of animals.

In his ethical theory Kant makes it quite clear that animals are means rather than ends. Rational beings, in contrast, are ends. For Kant, this distinction rests on the fact that rational beings can (as he sees it) chose to follow the moral law. Animals, lacking reason, cannot do this. Since animals are means and not ends, Kant claims that we have no direct duties to animals. They are classified in with the other “objects of our inclinations” that derive value from the value we give them.

Given this view, it would seem that Kant would not be very concerned with how animals are treated. After all, they would seem to be mere things. Oddly enough, Kant argues that we should treat animals well. However, he does so while also trying to avoid ascribing animals themselves any moral status. Here is how he does it (or tries to do so).

While Kant is not willing to accept that we have any direct duties to animals, he “smuggles” in duties to them indirectly. As he puts it, our duties towards animals are indirect duties towards humans. To make his case for this, he employs an argument from analogy: if a human doing X would obligate us to that human, then an animal doing X would also create an analogous moral obligation. For example, a human who has long and faithfully served another person should not simply be abandoned or put to death when he has grown old. Likewise, a dog who has served faithfully and well should not be cast aside in his old age.

While this would seem to create an obligation to the dog, Kant uses a little philosophical sleight of hand here. The dog cannot judge (that is, the dog is not rational) so, as Kant sees it, the dog cannot  be wronged. So, then, why would it be wrong to shoot the dog?

Kant’s answer seems to be rather consequentialist in character: he argues that if a person acts in inhumane ways towards animals (shooting the dog, for example) then his humanity will likely be damaged. Since, as Kant sees it, humans do have a duty to show humanity to other humans, shooting the dog would be wrong. This would not be because the dog was wronged but because humanity would be wronged by the shooter damaging his humanity through such a cruel act.

Interestingly enough, Kant discusses how people develop cruelty-they often begin with animals and then work up to harming human beings. As I point out to my students, Kant seems to have anticipated the psychological devolution of serial killers.

Kant goes beyond merely enjoining us to not be cruel to animals and encourages us to be kind to them. He even praises Leibniz for being rather gentle with a worm he found. Of course, he encourages this because those who are kind to animals will develop more humane feelings towards humans. So, roughly put, animals are essentially practice for us: how we treat them is training for how we will treat human beings.

While encouraging this good treatment, Kant does allow for some decidedly not-nice behavior. He uses the specific example of vivisectionists (those who studied living animals by dissecting them) and justifies their cruelty because animals are “man’s instruments.” In short, we should not be cruel to animals, unless doing so is to our advantage.

Kant does, however, place some limits on cruelty. While using animals for scientific purpose is justified, Kant claims that being cruel for sport cannot be morally justified. As such, Kant’s view would make certain forms of hunting unacceptable.

In the case of eating  meat, his theory would seem to allow it. After all, if cutting apart living animals for scientific purposes is acceptable, then killing a cow or pig for food would seem to be acceptable as well. However, given his remarks about cruelty for sport, Kant’s theory would probably cast certain ways of raising (and killing) meat animals as being unacceptable. After all, if cruelty for sport is out, presumably cruelty for culinary pleasures would also be out.  For example, veal would probably be out on the grounds that it is needlessly cruel.

Interestingly, Kant’s argument can be pushed to support vegetarianism. After all, if being cruel to animals makes us more likely to be cruel to humans, then treating animals as mere meat would seem to harden our hearts against living things. As such, it would seem that to better develop our human feelings we should forgo meat.

Of course, it can be argued that people can eat animals without suffering such a hardening of the heart (just hardening of the arteries). If so, then Kant’s view would allow the eating of meat.

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Seismic Revolt

There was something left unsaid in all the coverage about the powerful earthquakes that decimated Haiti in January and rattled Chile in February. Of course, we heard about the tragedy – the human tolls were covered in detail and made us acutely aware of our own vulnerability. But despite all that, no one wanted to discuss what caused these earthquakes. In an age where the materialist-scientific outlook peers into every dark corner of existence, leaving such an obvious question unasked suggests we can’t handle the answer.

It is time to confront the fact that climate change will manifest in unexpected ways, including violent earthquakes, tsunamis and volcanoes. This is the position of respected scientists. As the New Scientist magazine reports without equivocation, “evidence of a link between climate and the rumblings of the crust has been around for years, but only now is it becoming clear just how sensitive rock can be to the air, ice and water above.” Or as Bill McGuire, Professor of Geological Hazards at University College London, writes in an earlier New Scientist article, “as the balance changes between the stresses acting on the crust and the strains held within it, the result can be an increase in volcanic eruptions and earthquakes.” Within the scientific community there appears to be a long-standing belief that there is a direct, causal connection linking earthquakes to climate change.

This connection is not being discussed because our civilization is unwilling to accept the full-spectrum reality of nature’s revolt. We are like the naive soldiers who came to battle prepared for trench warfare only to find their enemies armed with airplanes. We think of climate change as “global warming” alone and prepare ourselves psychically for delayed seasons while nature hits us from below – literally – with an earth-splitting seismic revolt. And as we scramble to amass the public funds necessary for retrofitting our decaying industrial infrastructure, nature will deploy volcanic ash to block out the sun and mysterious blights to erase our crops.

Nature is in revolt against our consumer culture. The only chance we have as a species is to heed its warnings, to trust that these sudden catastrophes augur a dark future that our governments, our money and our faith in progress cannot protect us from. Nature is the source of our sustenance and may easily become the cause of our death. Unless, that is, we are willing to risk joining nature’s earthly insurrection.

Micah White is a contributing editor at Adbusters and an independent activist. He is writing a book on the future of activism. www.micahmwhite.com or micah (at) adbusters.org

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